There is no doubt about it that the dating world can be hard and a difficult territory to navigate. This is especially true when we are in our late teens to twenties. With the age of dating apps and non-committal arrangements, the lines get blurred and sometimes it feels like it is impossible to know where we stand with someone. They say that women are the more complicated gender, but there are many men out there that can be just as hard to read. It is easy to get caught in the trap of him wanting something more casual and the girl wanting something more serious. In order to not hurt your feelings, sometimes they drop hints to us hoping that we will quickly pick on them.
If a guy doesn’t want to be direct with you, there will be a code talk that he will give you that is subtle. Sometimes it is so subtle to the point where we don’t pick up the message altogether. Not to worry. We have made an extensive list of prime examples of what guys say to you versus what they are really trying to say to you. Don’t get too offended or shocked, for the truth will set you free. In fact, you may even want to consider ditching him after knowing what his real intentions are.
Here are the 22 segments of bro code for what he says vs. what he really means:
22 – He Says: “My Ex Was Crazy.” vs. He Means: “My Ex Was Sane Until I Made Her Crazy.”
It is actually a mellow form of misogyny when men as a collective label women as “crazy” just because they are acting in a way that they don’t like. In fact, it is a form of gas-lighting when your man does disrespectful and inconsiderate things and then labels you a “psycho” when you get upset over it. If a guy tells you that his ex is crazy, psycho, etc. and doesn’t really give the reason as to what really provoked her, chances are that he did something to provoke her. Of course, there are two sides to every story, and she may have overreacted. Always remember that all relationships go in two-way streets. Unless he follows up the statement of “my ex was crazy” with a “but to be fair, I did X, Y, or Z” then take this with a grain of salt.
21 – He Says: “I Love You.” vs. He Means: “Wow, I Did It. I’m Crazy About You And Don’t Want To See Anyone Else.”
It is the hardest thing in the world for a guy to come out and admit how he is really feeling. Society tells boys that they need to “suck it up” or “be a man” and not show any vulnerability. This is especially true when it comes to dealing with women. For a guy to tell you that he loves you is an incredible stepping stone for him especially if he had other options before you. In today’s modern dating world, it is easy for people to believe that there is a better choice just right around the corner. Just make sure that he actually means it when he says that he loves you. Guy code could say that he loves you but it could just be another form of emotional manipulation. Remember to pay attention to the actions that say that he loves you rather than just his words.