It’s a horrible feeling not knowing if the person you love is betraying you (or about to betray you) behind your back. It wears down even the most confident, secure person if you suspect, but aren’t sure, that your partner is either thinking about going astray or has already done it. If you’ve talked about your concerns with your partner, and he or she has been dismissive and unconvincing, they might be attempting to gaslight you. You might not be a jealous person whatsoever, but your instincts are telling you that something’s just not right. Here are a few signs that can help you identify the red flags.
Attentive. If your partner is way more attentive than usual, it could be an indicator that he (or she) is feeling guilty about something he either has done or is thinking about doing. As affairs go on, the guilt tends to subside as the cheating becomes a regular part of his routine.
Gifts. Gifts fall under the guilt category. If your partner is showing you with gifts for no reason at all, it might be because he’s done something wrong.
You have a gut feeling. If your instincts are telling you that your mate is betraying you, you should not ignore those feelings. You know your partner’s habits and behavior. If something seems off, and he’s changed, that’s not something to just ignore.
Picking fights. Picking fights can be a good excuse for someone to storm out of the house and go astray. It can also be a way for your partner to convince himself that your relationship is in bad shape, and that cheating is somehow justified because of the constant fighting.
Breaking up. When you argue, your partner brings up breaking up or separating. If he raises the topic of what’s going to happen when you’re no longer together, it means it’s on his mind for a reason.