Be each others’ biggest support.
I’ve written a lot about how healthy couples manage to stay healthy even after months and years of being together, it’s not easy and it takes a lot of effort from both sides. Healthy and happy couples also have their downs and their problems, but they still manage to come out of those problems stronger than ever, that’s what makes them “healthy” in the end and they manage to stay that way for days to come. Here are eight of the most common things that only healthy couples can understand, let’s begin.
7. They compromise a lot for each other
Make no mistake, healthy and strong relationships take a lot of compromise to stay strong, more importantly from both sides. It’s not a relationship if only one person makes all of the effort and the other just watches them and enjoys it. Every relationship requires a lot of compromise from both parties, and strong relationships are the prime example of just that.
They don’t think twice before letting anything go for one another, because in the end they know who holds more priority in their lives and who doesn’t.
6. They don’t shy away from accepting their mistakes
Healthy couples stay healthy because both the partners don’t mind accepting their mistakes and owning up to them, they never play the blame game and instantly apologise if they’re really at fault and they see their partner hurting because of what they did. Everyone makes mistakes, but most people start ignoring their mistakes or just start changing topics whenever they’re confronted about those mistakes, don’t be one of those people. If you want to have a happy and healthy life with your partner, make sure you’re not scared of admitting when you’re wrong.
5. They are each others’ biggest support
Whenever I’m in doubt, whenever I’m in need, whenever I’m scared, no matter what the situation or the scenario may be, I know without a shadow of a doubt that my girlfriend is going to be standing right beside me with her hand in mine, she’s been that way since day one and so have I. I consider her my biggest critic and my biggest strength and she considers me hers.
A happy couple knows the deal, they provide endless support to one another without either one of them asking for it, they’re just there.
4. A more mature level of trust
A happy couple is happy because they don’t have any insecurities with one another, they know each other inside and out. My girlfriend hangs out with her guy friends and I hang out with my girl friends, and neither of us has any problem with that because we know what we both mean to each other at the end of the day, I never let insecurities get in the way of love, I used to be very different though. I used to ask her every single detail of her hangouts, to the point where she started feeling like I don’t trust her, and that’s a horrible spot to be in even though you’re trying your best to gain the other person’s trust, so I had to change for the better and I did. This level of mature trust is only obtained if you love each other enough to not let little things get in between, and that’s what makes a couple “healthy”.
3. No effort goes unnoticed
Strong couples notice each and every little thing about each other, not even the smallest of efforts is left unnoticed, that’s the beauty of love and affection. It’s the feeling of being cherished by the other person, the feeling of knowing that your efforts will never go in vain and they’ll always love you more for what you do for them. I’ve seen couples where one person struggles a lot to keep the other person happy but the other person just ignores most of those things, such relationships don’t last too long. Notice everything.
2. Proper personal space
Strong couples become strong because they give each other enough personal space, they give each other enough room to breathe, they know that their partners have their own lives to live too and they let them live their lives without any interruptions or interventions. Don’t make the relationship suffocating by jamming certain rules down each others’ throats, give each other enough room to grow and to breathe. You don’t need to be there 24/7.
1. They tell the truth, even if it hurts
Strong and healthy couples tell each other the truth, they are very straightforward with each other no matter what. They know the importance of telling the truth and they know how horrible it is to lie to the person you love with all of your heart, it’s just very unsettling. The truth might hurt today, but it will make your partner love you more in the end because they’ll know that you chose to say it rather than hide it forever.